Dating & Social · head to head
HER vs Grindr
Grindr
Dating & Social
The world's largest social networking app for gay, bi, trans, and queer people
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- Rated
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The short version
- Each has a real cost: HER facebook or Instagram account required for signup, which excludes closeted users or those with safety concerns; Grindr poor account appeal process with frequent wrongful bans and unresponsive customer service
- They diverge on capability: HER covers Profile Matching, Grindr covers Location-Based Discovery.
Where they differ
Only the attributes on which HER and Grindr actually diverge.
Identical on both: starting price (Free), pricing model (Unknown), free tier (Yes), user rating (Not yet rated).
What each one covers
Drawn from each product's published feature list. An absence here means we hold no record of it - not that the product lacks it.
Only in HER
- Profile Matching
- Communities
- Events
- Feed
- Filter by Sexuality
- Spotify
Only in Grindr
- Location-Based Discovery
- Chat
- Explore Tab
- Tags and Tribes
- Incognito Mode
- Web support
Both cover
- Video Chat
- Ios support
- Android support
Where each one falls short
Documented limitations, not opinions. Every one is a constraint you would hit in normal use.
HER
- Facebook or Instagram account required for signup, which excludes closeted users or those with safety concerns
- No web version available; mobile-only platform on iOS and Android
- Fake profiles and romance scams present on platform despite selfie verification
- Limited user base outside major cities; geographic areas without Pride events may have single-digit user pools
- Key features like Discover page and unlimited likes are behind paywall with 14-hour swiping limit unless paid
Grindr
- Poor account appeal process with frequent wrongful bans and unresponsive customer service
- Incomplete age verification globally, with inconsistent enforcement across regions
- History of privacy violations, including 5.8 million euro fine from Norwegian Consumer Council for sharing user data with advertisers
- Rising subscription costs with aggressive monetization strategy
Pricing, plan by plan
HER
Free- FreeFree
- Liking and matching
- Messaging
- Communities
- Premium$14.99/month
- Ad-free experience
- See who is online in real-time
- Additional search filters
Grindr
Free- XTRA$19.99/month
- No ads
- View 600+ profiles
- Unlimited blocks and favorites
- Unlimited$39.99/month
- All XTRA features
- See who viewed your profile
- Incognito mode
Which should you pick?
Choose HER if
- You need profile matching.
- You want to start without paying.
- You work on iOS, Android.
- You also want communities.
Choose Grindr if
- You need location-based discovery.
- You want to start without paying.
- You work on iOS, Android, Web.
- You also want chat.
Questions people ask
- Is HER or Grindr better?
- Neither clearly leads. HER starts at Free and Grindr at Free, and user ratings are close enough to be indistinguishable. Choose on capability and platform support.
- Which is cheaper, HER or Grindr?
- HER starts at Free and Grindr at Free.
- Does HER or Grindr run on more platforms?
- HER runs on iOS, Android. Grindr runs on iOS, Android, Web.
- Can I use HER for free?
- Both have a free tier, so you can try either at no cost before committing.
- What can HER do that Grindr cannot?
- HER covers Profile Matching, Communities, Events, Feed. Grindr covers Location-Based Discovery, Chat, Explore Tab, Tags and Tribes. Both handle Video Chat, Ios support, Android support.
Answered from the vendors’ own pages
HER: Are all HER features free to use?
Yes. All core features are completely free including liking, matching, messaging, joining communities, and viewing events. HER Premium ($14.99/month or $7.50/month annually) removes ads and adds filters.
SourceGrindr: Is Grindr free to use?
Yes, Grindr offers a freemium model with basic profile browsing and unlimited messaging at no cost. Two paid tiers provide additional features: XTRA ($19.99/month) removes ads and expands visible profiles to 600, while Unlimited ($39.99/month) adds viewing who viewed your profile and incognito mode.
SourceHER: What communities does HER offer?
HER features 30+ communities for queer women, lesbian, bi, nonbinary, trans, and gender nonconforming users. Users can add pronouns, pride pins, and gender identities to their profiles.
SourceGrindr: How do I export my personal data from Grindr?
Open the app, tap your profile image, then Settings. Scroll down and tap Download My Data under Security and Privacy. Re-enter your password, choose an email address, and your data report will include chats, images, and messages you sent (not received).
SourceHER: What platforms does HER support?
HER is available on iOS (App Store) and Android (Google Play).
SourceGrindr: Can I use Grindr on my computer?
Yes, Grindr offers a web version for subscribers at grindr.com, though it requires a paid subscription. Alternatively, you can run the Android app on desktop using emulators like BlueStacks or NoxPlayer.
SourceGrindr: What privacy features does Grindr offer?
Grindr allows you to share photos that expire after one view and last 10 seconds. You can also opt out of having your location shared publicly, and premium subscribers can enable incognito mode to browse anonymously.
SourceGrindr: Is my account deletion permanent?
Yes, deleting your profile through Settings is permanent and non-recoverable. Grindr will remove all your personal data within their stated timeframe according to their Privacy Policy.
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