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Alternatives to HER
20 dating & social tools sit alongside HER in this directory. Below is what separates each from HER on the figures we hold, price, model, tier count and rating, and a direct comparison for every one.
- Alternatives listed
- 20
- With a free tier
- 16
- Cheaper to start
- 9
- HER starts at
- Free, then $14.99/month
Why people look past HER
Nothing on the record flags a reason to move. HER has a free tier, and starts at $14.99/month against a category median of $27.49/month. People still switch over fit and workflow, and those are not things a catalogue entry can measure, which is what the comparisons below are for.
What each alternative does differently
Ordered by the aggregated rating on each catalogue entry. Differences are drawn from price, pricing model, tier count and rating, the fields the category listing carries. For a feature-level difference, follow the head-to-head link on each card: those pages read both full records.
The world's largest social networking app for gay, bi, trans, and queer people
- Starts $4.999999999999998 a month dearer, at $19.99/month.
LGBTQ+ dating and social network
- Starts $14.99 a month cheaper, at Free.
Make the first move
- Starts $14.999999999999998 a month dearer, at $29.99/month.
Dating for the open-minded
- Starts $3 a month cheaper, at $11.99/month.
AI-powered networking
- Starts $14.99 a month cheaper, at Free.
Your friends for real
- Starts $14.99 a month cheaper, at Free.
- 1 tier to HER's 2.
Every HER alternative at a glance
A dash means the catalogue entry carries no figure, not that the answer is nothing.
| Tool | Entry price | Model | Tiers | Head to head |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| HER (this page) | Free, then $14.99/month | - | 2 | |
| GrindrDating and social platform for gay and bisexual men with similar community and social features | Free, then $19.99/month | - | 2 | vs HER |
| TaimiLGBTQ dating app with social features and community events similar to HER's approach | Free | Freemium | 2 | vs HER |
| BumbleDating app with similar social features and women-centered design principles | Free, then $29.99/month | - | - | vs HER |
| Feeld | Free, then $11.99/month | - | - | vs HER |
| Lunchclub | Free | Freemium | 2 | vs HER |
| BeReal | Free | Free | 1 | vs HER |
| Geneva | Free | Free | 1 | vs HER |
| Clubhouse | Free | Free | 1 | vs HER |
| Hinge | Free, then $16.99/month | - | 3 | vs HER |
| Happn | Free, then $29.99/month | - | - | vs HER |
| eHarmony | Free | Freemium | - | vs HER |
| Free | Freemium | 3 | vs HER | |
| Facebook Dating | Free | - | - | vs HER |
| Badoo | Free | Freemium | 2 | vs HER |
| Bluesky | Free | Free | 1 | vs HER |
| Coffee Meets Bagel | Free, then $14.99/month | - | - | vs HER |
| Lox Club | $36/month | Subscription | 2 | vs HER |
| Christian Mingle | $24.99/month | Subscription | 1 | vs HER |
| JDate | $29.99/month | Subscription | 1 | vs HER |
| EliteSingles | $31.95/month | Subscription | 2 | vs HER |
Ratings are aggregated from third-party sources and imported with each catalogue entry; Softwr hosts no reviews of these products. How each figure is used is set out on the HER badges page.
Cheaper ways to solve the same problem
Cheaper than HER (9)
Entry price under HER's $14.99/month. The record does not say what unit that price is charged in, so confirm per-seat versus flat rate before comparing budgets.
What you would be giving up
The record we hold does not list what HER is typically used for, so there is no honest way to enumerate what a switch would cost you from this page alone.
Two things this page cannot settle. It compares on price, model, tier count and rating, because those are the fields the category listing carries, feature-level differences need both full records, which is what the head-to-head pages load. And the ratings are third-party aggregates imported with each entry rather than reviews written here, so a 0.2 difference between two tools is noise rather than a finding.
If HER is broadly right and the question is cost, the HER pricing breakdown covers every tier and what each one adds. If you want the whole field rather than a shortlist, the Dating & Social category lists everything the directory holds, and best dating & social tools ranks them.
HER runs on ios, android. Platform coverage is not carried on the category listing for the alternatives, so it is one more thing to check on each head-to-head page rather than here.
Questions about HER alternatives
- What are the main alternatives to HER?
- 20 other dating & social tools are listed in this directory, led by Grindr, Taimi, Bumble, Feeld. They are ordered by the aggregated rating on each catalogue entry, not by any Softwr ranking.
- What is the best free alternative to HER?
- 16 of the alternatives listed here can be used without paying: Grindr, Taimi, Bumble, Feeld, Lunchclub.
- Is there a cheaper alternative to HER?
- Yes. 9 of the alternatives below start under HER's $14.99/month: Taimi at Free, Feeld at Free, then $11.99/month, Lunchclub at Free, BeReal at Free.
- Is there a reason to switch away from HER?
- Nothing in the data flags one. HER has a free tier, and starts at $14.99/month against a category median of $27.49/month. Fit and workflow are the usual reasons to move, and those are not things this record can measure.
- What would I give up by switching from HER?
- The record we hold does not list what HER is typically used for, so the honest answer is to check the side-by-side comparison for whichever alternative you are considering. Each one puts the two full feature records against each other.
- Is there an open-source alternative to HER?
- None of the dating & social tools listed here are recorded as open source. That is what the licence field on each entry says, and the field is not always filled in, so it is worth checking directly for any tool you are serious about.
- How were these HER alternatives chosen?
- They are the tools filed in the same category, Dating & Social, ordered by the aggregated rating on each entry. There is no editorial shortlist, and nothing on this page is paid: no sponsored slot runs on alternatives pages and the order cannot be bought. Softwr has not used these products.
- Where can I compare HER against one of these directly?
- Every alternative below has a side-by-side page against HER covering price, platforms, features and what each one is used for. Those pages read the full record for both products rather than the summary shown here.
- Does this list cover every dating & social tool?
- No. It covers what this directory holds in the Dating & Social category, 20 tools beside HER. The category page lists the rest of the catalogue as it grows.