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HER vs OkCupid

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HER

Software

The dating app for LGBTQ+ women and queer people

From
Free
Rated
-
Full reviewWebsite
OkCupid logo

OkCupid

Software

Dating deserves better

From
Free
Rated
-
Full reviewWebsite

The short version

  • Each has a real cost: HER facebook or Instagram account required for signup, which excludes closeted users or those with safety concerns; OkCupid high volume of bots and fake profiles degrades user experience
  • They diverge on capability: HER covers Profile Matching, OkCupid covers Match Questions.

Where they differ

Only the attributes on which HER and OkCupid actually diverge.

Attributes where HER and OkCupid differ
AttributeHEROkCupid
Pricing modelUnknownfreemium
PlatformsiOS, AndroidWeb, iOS, Android
Founded20132004

Identical on both: starting price (Free), free tier (Yes), user rating (Not yet rated), category (Unknown).

What each one covers

Drawn from each product's published feature list. An absence here means we hold no record of it - not that the product lacks it.

Only in HER

  • Profile Matching
  • Communities
  • Events
  • Feed
  • Filter by Sexuality
  • Video Chat
  • Spotify

Only in OkCupid

  • Match Questions
  • Compatibility Score
  • Detailed Profiles
  • Double Take
  • Intro Messages
  • Dealbreakers
  • Web support

Both cover

  • Instagram
  • Ios support
  • Android support

Where each one falls short

Documented limitations, not opinions. Every one is a constraint you would hit in normal use.

HER

  • Facebook or Instagram account required for signup, which excludes closeted users or those with safety concerns
  • No web version available; mobile-only platform on iOS and Android
  • Fake profiles and romance scams present on platform despite selfie verification
  • Limited user base outside major cities; geographic areas without Pride events may have single-digit user pools
  • Key features like Discover page and unlimited likes are behind paywall with 14-hour swiping limit unless paid

OkCupid

  • High volume of bots and fake profiles degrades user experience
  • Users cannot message without liking profiles first
  • Smaller user base compared to Hinge and Tinder
  • Poor customer satisfaction score of 65% with weak support infrastructure
  • Premium plans are expensive relative to features offered

Pricing, plan by plan

HER

Free
  • FreeFree
    • Liking and matching
    • Messaging
    • Communities
  • Premium$14.99/month
    • Ad-free experience
    • See who is online in real-time
    • Additional search filters

OkCupid

Free
  • FreeFree
    • Matching
    • Messaging
    • Questions
  • Basic$14.99/month
    • No Ads
    • See Who Likes You
    • Dealbreakers
  • Premium$34.99/month
    • All Basic Features
    • Boost
    • Super Likes

Which should you pick?

Choose HER if

  • You need profile matching.
  • You want to start without paying.
  • You work on iOS, Android.
  • You also want communities.
HER review

Choose OkCupid if

  • You need match questions.
  • You want to start without paying.
  • You work on Web, iOS, Android.
  • You also want compatibility score.
OkCupid review

Questions people ask

Is HER or OkCupid better?
Neither clearly leads. HER starts at Free and OkCupid at Free, and user ratings are close enough to be indistinguishable. Choose on capability and platform support.
Which is cheaper, HER or OkCupid?
HER starts at Free and OkCupid at Free.
Does HER or OkCupid run on more platforms?
HER runs on iOS, Android. OkCupid runs on Web, iOS, Android.
Can I use HER for free?
Both have a free tier, so you can try either at no cost before committing.
What can HER do that OkCupid cannot?
HER covers Profile Matching, Communities, Events, Feed. OkCupid covers Match Questions, Compatibility Score, Detailed Profiles, Double Take. Both handle Instagram, Ios support, Android support.

Answered from the vendors’ own pages

HER: Are all HER features free to use?

Yes. All core features are completely free including liking, matching, messaging, joining communities, and viewing events. HER Premium ($14.99/month or $7.50/month annually) removes ads and adds filters.

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OkCupid: Is OkCupid free to use?

Yes, OkCupid has a generous free tier with unlimited messaging to mutual matches, browsing, and up to 10 likes per day. Premium plans unlock features like seeing who liked you first.

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HER: What communities does HER offer?

HER features 30+ communities for queer women, lesbian, bi, nonbinary, trans, and gender nonconforming users. Users can add pronouns, pride pins, and gender identities to their profiles.

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OkCupid: What platforms is OkCupid available on?

OkCupid is available on web desktop, mobile web, iOS, and Android. The web version is effective for setting up profiles and answering questions, while mobile apps offer optimized swiping.

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HER: What platforms does HER support?

HER is available on iOS (App Store) and Android (Google Play).

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OkCupid: How does OkCupid match people?

OkCupid uses a compatibility algorithm based on questions about values, lifestyle, and preferences. Users answer questions and receive a match percentage with other users based on answer compatibility.

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OkCupid: Does OkCupid verify user profiles?

Users will soon be able to search for dates with verified profiles using selfie verification, with OkCupid's support team reviewing every verification personally.

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