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HER vs OurTime

HER logo

HER

Dating

The dating app for LGBTQ+ women and queer people

From
Free
Rated
-
Full reviewWebsite
OurTime logo

OurTime

Dating

Dating for 50+ singles

From
$15.99/month
Rated
-
Full reviewWebsite

The short version

  • Only HER has a free tier, so it costs nothing to try first.
  • Each has a real cost: HER facebook or Instagram account required for signup, which excludes closeted users or those with safety concerns; OurTime seeing who liked you requires the Premium subscription
  • They diverge on capability: HER covers Profile Matching, OurTime covers Easy Interface.
  • Prices and features above were last checked on 30 August 2026.

Where they differ

Only the attributes on which HER and OurTime actually diverge.

Attributes where HER and OurTime differ
AttributeHEROurTime
Starting priceFree$15.99/month
Pricing modelUnknownsubscription
Free tierYesNo
PlatformsiOS, AndroidIos, Android, Web
Founded20132011

Identical on both: user rating (Not yet rated), category (Dating).

What each one covers

Drawn from each product's published feature list. An absence here means we hold no record of it - not that the product lacks it.

Only in HER

  • Profile Matching
  • Communities
  • Events
  • Feed
  • Filter by Sexuality
  • Video Chat
  • Instagram
  • Spotify

Only in OurTime

  • Easy Interface
  • Flirts
  • ConnectMe Calls
  • Profile Boost
  • Daily Matches
  • I'm Interested
  • Web support

Both cover

  • Ios support
  • Android support

What people use each for

The jobs each tool is most often brought in to do.

HER

No use cases recorded yet. See the HER review.

OurTime

  • Dating for people over 50 looking for companionship or a relationshipnot HER
  • Browsing and filtering local singles in the same life stagenot HER
  • Getting curated daily match suggestionsnot HER

Where each one falls short

Documented limitations, not opinions. Every one is a constraint you would hit in normal use.

HER

  • Facebook or Instagram account required for signup, which excludes closeted users or those with safety concerns
  • No web version available; mobile-only platform on iOS and Android
  • Fake profiles and romance scams present on platform despite selfie verification
  • Limited user base outside major cities; geographic areas without Pride events may have single-digit user pools
  • Key features like Discover page and unlimited likes are behind paywall with 14-hour swiping limit unless paid

OurTime

  • Seeing who liked you requires the Premium subscription
  • Read receipts on your messages are Premium only
  • Profile boosts and Super Likes are Premium only
  • The free tier is limited to building a profile, searching, Topics and curated daily matches
  • The iOS app requires iOS 16.0 or later

Pricing, plan by plan

HER

Free
  • FreeFree
    • Liking and matching
    • Messaging
    • Communities
  • Premium$14.99/month
    • Ad-free experience
    • See who is online in real-time
    • Additional search filters

OurTime

$15.99/month
  • Standard$15.99/month
    • Messaging
    • See Who Viewed You
    • Search
  • Value$11.99/month
    • All Standard Features
    • Profile Highlighting

Which should you pick?

Choose HER if

  • You need profile matching.
  • You want to start without paying.
  • You work on iOS, Android.
  • You also want communities.
HER review

Choose OurTime if

  • You need easy interface.
  • You work on Ios, Android, Web.
  • You also want flirts.
OurTime review

Questions people ask

Is HER or OurTime better?
Neither clearly leads. HER starts at Free and OurTime at $15.99/month, and user ratings are close enough to be indistinguishable. Choose on capability and platform support.
Which is cheaper, HER or OurTime?
HER has a free tier; the other does not. Paid plans start at Free for HER and $15.99/month for OurTime.
Does HER or OurTime run on more platforms?
HER runs on iOS, Android. OurTime runs on Ios, Android, Web.
Can I use HER for free?
Yes. HER has a free tier, so you can try it without paying. OurTime starts at $15.99/month.
What can HER do that OurTime cannot?
HER covers Profile Matching, Communities, Events, Feed. OurTime covers Easy Interface, Flirts, ConnectMe Calls, Profile Boost. Both handle Ios support, Android support.

Answered from the vendors’ own pages

HER: Are all HER features free to use?

Yes. All core features are completely free including liking, matching, messaging, joining communities, and viewing events. HER Premium ($14.99/month or $7.50/month annually) removes ads and adds filters.

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HER: What communities does HER offer?

HER features 30+ communities for queer women, lesbian, bi, nonbinary, trans, and gender nonconforming users. Users can add pronouns, pride pins, and gender identities to their profiles.

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HER: What platforms does HER support?

HER is available on iOS (App Store) and Android (Google Play).

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