Dating & Social · head to head
HER vs Facebook Dating
The short version
- Each has a real cost: HER facebook or Instagram account required for signup, which excludes closeted users or those with safety concerns; Facebook Dating only available in approximately 50 countries, limiting global reach compared to Tinder or Bumble
- They diverge on capability: HER covers Profile Matching, Facebook Dating covers Secret Crush.
Where they differ
Only the attributes on which HER and Facebook Dating actually diverge.
| Attribute | HER | Facebook Dating |
|---|---|---|
| Founded | 2013 | 2018 |
Identical on both: starting price (Free), pricing model (Unknown), free tier (Yes), platforms (iOS, Android), user rating (Not yet rated), category (Dating & Social).
What each one covers
Drawn from each product's published feature list. An absence here means we hold no record of it - not that the product lacks it.
Only in HER
- Profile Matching
- Communities
- Events
- Feed
- Filter by Sexuality
- Spotify
Only in Facebook Dating
- Secret Crush
- Events Integration
- Groups Integration
- Stories
- Instagram Integration
- Facebook Events
- Facebook Groups
Both cover
- Video Chat
- Ios support
- Android support
Where each one falls short
Documented limitations, not opinions. Every one is a constraint you would hit in normal use.
HER
- Facebook or Instagram account required for signup, which excludes closeted users or those with safety concerns
- No web version available; mobile-only platform on iOS and Android
- Fake profiles and romance scams present on platform despite selfie verification
- Limited user base outside major cities; geographic areas without Pride events may have single-digit user pools
- Key features like Discover page and unlimited likes are behind paywall with 14-hour swiping limit unless paid
Facebook Dating
- Only available in approximately 50 countries, limiting global reach compared to Tinder or Bumble
- Mobile-only platform with no desktop access, restricting usage to smartphones
- Limited communication options: text-only messaging with no video chat feature
- Only 20% year-over-year user growth in US/Canada (280M+ users) versus Tinder's 50M+ active daters
- Smaller active dating user base makes finding matches difficult outside major metropolitan areas
- Privacy concerns due to Meta's history of data mishandling and data collection for ad targeting
- Algorithm matches based on shared interests do not necessarily ensure compatibility, particularly regarding life goals
Pricing, plan by plan
HER
Free- FreeFree
- Liking and matching
- Messaging
- Communities
- Premium$14.99/month
- Ad-free experience
- See who is online in real-time
- Additional search filters
Facebook Dating
FreeNo published plan breakdown. See the Facebook Dating review.
Which should you pick?
Choose HER if
- You need profile matching.
- You want to start without paying.
- You work on iOS, Android.
- You also want communities.
Choose Facebook Dating if
- You need secret crush.
- You want to start without paying.
- You work on iOS, Android.
- You also want events integration.
Questions people ask
- Is HER or Facebook Dating better?
- Neither clearly leads. HER starts at Free and Facebook Dating at Free, and user ratings are close enough to be indistinguishable. Choose on capability and platform support.
- Which is cheaper, HER or Facebook Dating?
- HER starts at Free and Facebook Dating at Free.
- Does HER or Facebook Dating run on more platforms?
- Both run on iOS, Android, so platform support will not decide this one for you.
- Can I use HER for free?
- Both have a free tier, so you can try either at no cost before committing.
- What can HER do that Facebook Dating cannot?
- HER covers Profile Matching, Communities, Events, Feed. Facebook Dating covers Secret Crush, Events Integration, Groups Integration, Stories. Both handle Video Chat, Instagram, Ios support, Android support.
Answered from the vendors’ own pages
HER: Are all HER features free to use?
Yes. All core features are completely free including liking, matching, messaging, joining communities, and viewing events. HER Premium ($14.99/month or $7.50/month annually) removes ads and adds filters.
SourceFacebook Dating: Is Facebook Dating free to use?
Yes. Facebook Dating is completely free with no subscriptions or premium tiers. All features including unlimited likes and seeing who liked you are free, unlike competitors like Tinder.
SourceHER: What communities does HER offer?
HER features 30+ communities for queer women, lesbian, bi, nonbinary, trans, and gender nonconforming users. Users can add pronouns, pride pins, and gender identities to their profiles.
SourceFacebook Dating: How does Facebook Dating protect my privacy?
Facebook Dating creates a separate dating profile invisible to friends and family. Matches come from groups, events, and pages you follow. However, Meta collects dating activity data to improve algorithms and target ads, raising concerns given Facebook's history of data mishandling.
SourceHER: What platforms does HER support?
HER is available on iOS (App Store) and Android (Google Play).
SourceFacebook Dating: What devices can I access Facebook Dating on?
Facebook Dating is only available on mobile via Facebook apps for Android and iPhone. Desktop access is not supported.
SourceFacebook Dating: What countries is Facebook Dating available in?
Facebook Dating is available in approximately 50 countries including the US, Canada, Europe (32 countries), and select other regions. Global availability is more limited compared to competitors like Tinder.
SourceFacebook Dating: How does Facebook Dating match users?
Facebook Dating uses an algorithm based on user preferences, activity, mutual connections, and shared interests from groups and events you follow. However, research shows little evidence that similarity algorithms actually predict dating compatibility.
SourceFacebook Dating: Does Facebook Dating have video chat?
No. Facebook Dating only supports text messaging for communication. Video chat is not available, unlike some competitors that offer video call features before meeting.