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HER vs SilverSingles

HER logo

HER

Dating & Social

The dating app for LGBTQ+ women and queer people

From
Free
Rated
-
Full reviewWebsite
SilverSingles logo

SilverSingles

Dating & Social

Online dating for 50+ singles

From
$24.95/month
Rated
-
Full reviewWebsite

The short version

  • Only HER has a free tier, so it costs nothing to try first.
  • Each has a real cost: HER facebook or Instagram account required for signup, which excludes closeted users or those with safety concerns; SilverSingles no phone support available; customer service limited to online contact form only
  • They diverge on capability: HER covers Profile Matching, SilverSingles covers Personality Test.

Where they differ

Only the attributes on which HER and SilverSingles actually diverge.

Attributes where HER and SilverSingles differ
AttributeHERSilverSingles
Starting priceFree$24.95/month
Pricing modelUnknownsubscription
Free tierYesNo
PlatformsiOS, AndroidIos, Android, Web
Founded20132002

Identical on both: user rating (Not yet rated), category (Dating & Social).

What each one covers

Drawn from each product's published feature list. An absence here means we hold no record of it - not that the product lacks it.

Only in HER

  • Profile Matching
  • Communities
  • Events
  • Feed
  • Filter by Sexuality
  • Video Chat
  • Instagram
  • Spotify

Only in SilverSingles

  • Personality Test
  • Curated Matches
  • Secure Messaging
  • Profile Verification
  • Easy-to-Use Interface
  • Customer Support
  • Web support

Both cover

  • Ios support
  • Android support

Where each one falls short

Documented limitations, not opinions. Every one is a constraint you would hit in normal use.

HER

  • Facebook or Instagram account required for signup, which excludes closeted users or those with safety concerns
  • No web version available; mobile-only platform on iOS and Android
  • Fake profiles and romance scams present on platform despite selfie verification
  • Limited user base outside major cities; geographic areas without Pride events may have single-digit user pools
  • Key features like Discover page and unlimited likes are behind paywall with 14-hour swiping limit unless paid

SilverSingles

  • No phone support available; customer service limited to online contact form only
  • Personality test takes 20-30 minutes to complete; editing answers later requires creating a new account
  • Platform ignores distance preferences; users receive matches far outside their set distance range
  • Free account members cannot see others' profile pictures or names of visitors

Pricing, plan by plan

HER

Free
  • FreeFree
    • Liking and matching
    • Messaging
    • Communities
  • Premium$14.99/month
    • Ad-free experience
    • See who is online in real-time
    • Additional search filters

SilverSingles

$24.95/month
  • Premium Light$37.95/month
    • Unlimited Messaging
    • See All Photos
  • Premium Classic$24.95/month
    • All Light Features
    • Read Receipts

Which should you pick?

Choose HER if

  • You need profile matching.
  • You want to start without paying.
  • You work on iOS, Android.
  • You also want communities.
HER review

Choose SilverSingles if

  • You need personality test.
  • You work on Ios, Android, Web.
  • You also want curated matches.
SilverSingles review

Questions people ask

Is HER or SilverSingles better?
Neither clearly leads. HER starts at Free and SilverSingles at $24.95/month, and user ratings are close enough to be indistinguishable. Choose on capability and platform support.
Which is cheaper, HER or SilverSingles?
HER has a free tier; the other does not. Paid plans start at Free for HER and $24.95/month for SilverSingles.
Does HER or SilverSingles run on more platforms?
HER runs on iOS, Android. SilverSingles runs on Ios, Android, Web.
Can I use HER for free?
Yes. HER has a free tier, so you can try it without paying. SilverSingles starts at $24.95/month.
What can HER do that SilverSingles cannot?
HER covers Profile Matching, Communities, Events, Feed. SilverSingles covers Personality Test, Curated Matches, Secure Messaging, Profile Verification. Both handle Ios support, Android support.

Answered from the vendors’ own pages

HER: Are all HER features free to use?

Yes. All core features are completely free including liking, matching, messaging, joining communities, and viewing events. HER Premium ($14.99/month or $7.50/month annually) removes ads and adds filters.

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SilverSingles: Can I message matches on the free plan?

Free members can message matches as long as both users have liked each other. However, premium membership is required to access unlimited messaging and all advanced communication features. Basic members can send up to 10 likes per day and receive 3 daily recommended profiles.

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HER: What communities does HER offer?

HER features 30+ communities for queer women, lesbian, bi, nonbinary, trans, and gender nonconforming users. Users can add pronouns, pride pins, and gender identities to their profiles.

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SilverSingles: How does the personality matching work?

SilverSingles uses a personality test based on the Big Five personality model to generate compatibility scores. Once you complete the test, the system sends you 3 to 7 curated daily matches based on your personality profile, stated preferences, and location.

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HER: What platforms does HER support?

HER is available on iOS (App Store) and Android (Google Play).

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SilverSingles: What payment plans are available?

SilverSingles offers three main membership plans: 1 month at $54.99, 3 months at $34.99/month (billed as $104.97), and 6 months at $19.99/month (billed as $119.94). Premium matchmaking concierge services require a minimum $5,000 investment for three months.

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SilverSingles: Is a photo required to join?

While a profile can be created without a photo initially, having a clear photo significantly increases match quality and message responses. Free members cannot view full photos of other users, which prevents meaningful profile browsing without upgrading.

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SilverSingles: How does SilverSingles screen for fake profiles?

The platform uses AI facial recognition technology to detect and reject AI-generated profile photos during verification. However, some fake profiles still slip through despite security being a priority, requiring users to report suspicious accounts.

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SilverSingles: Can I cancel my subscription anytime?

Subscriptions renew automatically unless canceled in advance. The cancellation process can be confusing, and users must actively cancel to avoid unexpected charges after their subscription period ends.

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