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Discord vs HER

Discord logo

Discord

Software

Your place to talk and hang out

From
Free
Rated
-
Full reviewWebsite
HER logo

HER

Software

The dating app for LGBTQ+ women and queer people

From
Free
Rated
-
Full reviewWebsite

The short version

  • Each has a real cost: Discord file upload size is tied to subscription: Nitro Basic at $2.99 a month raises it to 50MB and Nitro at $9.99 a month to 500MB; HER facebook or Instagram account required for signup, which excludes closeted users or those with safety concerns
  • They diverge on capability: Discord covers Voice channels, HER covers Profile Matching.

Where they differ

Only the attributes on which Discord and HER actually diverge.

Attributes where Discord and HER differ
AttributeDiscordHER
Pricing modelfreemiumUnknown
PlatformsWeb, Windows, Macos, Linux, Ios, AndroidiOS, Android
Founded20152013

Identical on both: starting price (Free), free tier (Yes), user rating (Not yet rated), category (Unknown).

What each one covers

Drawn from each product's published feature list. An absence here means we hold no record of it - not that the product lacks it.

Only in Discord

  • Voice channels
  • Video calls
  • Text channels
  • Screen sharing
  • Go Live streaming
  • Server organization
  • Role management
  • Moderation tools

Only in HER

  • Profile Matching
  • Communities
  • Events
  • Feed
  • Filter by Sexuality
  • Video Chat
  • Instagram
  • Ios support

Both cover

  • Spotify

What people use each for

The jobs each tool is most often brought in to do.

Discord

  • Text, voice and video chat for communities and gaming groupsnot HER
  • Running a moderated community server with roles and channelsnot HER
  • Screen sharing and streaming gameplay to a small groupnot HER

HER

No use cases recorded yet. See the HER review.

Where each one falls short

Documented limitations, not opinions. Every one is a constraint you would hit in normal use.

Discord

  • File upload size is tied to subscription: Nitro Basic at $2.99 a month raises it to 50MB and Nitro at $9.99 a month to 500MB
  • HD video streaming requires the full Nitro subscription
  • Custom emoji use across servers, custom profiles and per server profiles are full Nitro only
  • Server boosts are bundled only with full Nitro, at two boosts plus a discount on extras
  • Nitro Basic explicitly excludes several Nitro perks including Xbox Game Pass access and custom video backgrounds

HER

  • Facebook or Instagram account required for signup, which excludes closeted users or those with safety concerns
  • No web version available; mobile-only platform on iOS and Android
  • Fake profiles and romance scams present on platform despite selfie verification
  • Limited user base outside major cities; geographic areas without Pride events may have single-digit user pools
  • Key features like Discover page and unlimited likes are behind paywall with 14-hour swiping limit unless paid

Pricing, plan by plan

Discord

Free
  • FreeFree
    • Unlimited text chat
    • Voice & video calls
    • Screen sharing
  • Nitro Basic$4.99/month
    • 50MB file uploads
    • Custom emojis anywhere
    • Special Nitro badge
  • Nitro$9.99/month
    • 500MB file uploads
    • HD video streaming
    • 2 Server Boosts

HER

Free
  • FreeFree
    • Liking and matching
    • Messaging
    • Communities
  • Premium$14.99/month
    • Ad-free experience
    • See who is online in real-time
    • Additional search filters

Which should you pick?

Choose Discord if

  • You need voice channels.
  • You want to start without paying.
  • You work on Web, Windows, Macos, Linux, Ios, Android.
  • You also want video calls.
Discord review

Choose HER if

  • You need profile matching.
  • You want to start without paying.
  • You work on iOS, Android.
  • You also want communities.
HER review

Questions people ask

Is Discord or HER better?
Neither clearly leads. Discord starts at Free and HER at Free, and user ratings are close enough to be indistinguishable. Choose on capability and platform support.
Which is cheaper, Discord or HER?
Discord starts at Free and HER at Free.
Does Discord or HER run on more platforms?
Discord runs on Web, Windows, Macos, Linux, Ios, Android. HER runs on iOS, Android.
Can I use Discord for free?
Both have a free tier, so you can try either at no cost before committing.
What is Discord best used for?
Discord is most often used for text, voice and video chat for communities and gaming groups, running a moderated community server with roles and channels, screen sharing and streaming gameplay to a small group. Of those, text, voice and video chat for communities and gaming groups and running a moderated community server with roles and channels are not what HER is typically brought in for.
What can Discord do that HER cannot?
Discord covers Voice channels, Video calls, Text channels, Screen sharing. HER covers Profile Matching, Communities, Events, Feed. Both handle Spotify.

Answered from the vendors’ own pages

HER: Are all HER features free to use?

Yes. All core features are completely free including liking, matching, messaging, joining communities, and viewing events. HER Premium ($14.99/month or $7.50/month annually) removes ads and adds filters.

Source
HER: What communities does HER offer?

HER features 30+ communities for queer women, lesbian, bi, nonbinary, trans, and gender nonconforming users. Users can add pronouns, pride pins, and gender identities to their profiles.

Source
HER: What platforms does HER support?

HER is available on iOS (App Store) and Android (Google Play).

Source
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